Essays by Alejandro Betancourt

Thinking
Through It.

I write about what happens between what we think we understand and what a life asks us to reconsider.

Selected essay · Identity

The Person You Think I Am

There are few stranger experiences than hearing someone who once knew you well describe a person you do not recognize.

Friendship

On friendship, loyalty, and the pain that follows when an unspoken bond stops meaning the same thing to both people.

Expectations

We often live by agreements no one discussed—and feel betrayed when someone else breaks rules they never knew existed.

Belief

What happens when the structures that once made us feel safe begin limiting the life we are trying to build.

DELIBERATELY brings together essays on the life within and what we carry from it into our relationships. Also available in Spanish.